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10 Fears Keeping Us from What We Want





Fear often stands between us and our ability to make decisions, take actions, and to ask for what we want.  

Below are 10 fears that commonly get in our way...




  1. Fear of being judged.
    • Needing approval from family or peers can keep us from going after dreams and goals.  Remember, they have their own life to live.  You should live yours!

  2. Fear of rejection.
    • Rejection just means that someone else has a different opinion.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion, including you.  But remember, it’s your opinion that counts when it comes to your life!

  3. Fear of emotional pain.
    • Rather than incapacitate us, painful feelings can sharpen our sense of joy and gratitude.  Be aware of your feelings, as they are part of the process of determining what we should do with our life!

  4. Fear of embarrassment.
    • Making mistakes publicly is awful only when we let ourselves feel ashamed.  When we can laugh at ourselves, make light of the situation and learn from it, the joke is on those who try to shame, not us!

  5. Fear of being alone/abandoned.
    • A strong sense of self-worth and what we can offer the world reduces this fear.  Being alone allows us to discover who we really are, are values and what we can contribute to the world.

  6. Fear of failure.
    • A biggie for most of us and born of the notion that it’s not OK to fail.  If this were true, we would all still be crawling on the floor!

  7. Fear of success.
    • More responsibility, more attention, pressure to perform can be frightening when we don’t believe in ourselves.  Success is a mode for freedom to work how you want, when you want, with whom you want and where you want!  Sounds great right?

  8. Fear of expressing feelings.
    • An authentic life means being willing to express our true feelings to our loved ones, colleagues, adversaries,—even to ourselves.  But remember to be kind.
  9. Fear of intimacy.
    • Emotional intimacy—really being seen by another—can be as scary as sexual intimacy.  Once you can be vulnerable, you will be amazed at the depth of relationships and how much more fulfilling they can be. 

  10. Fear of the unknown.
    • The unknown can be exciting and vast if we shift our fear to curiosity.  When curiosity is present, everything is more fun and adventurous. 


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