"People see what they want to see and
what people want to see never has anything to do with the truth."
- Roberto Bolaño

6 August 2020

Dear Renée,

Did you know scientists estimate we have over 60,000 thoughts per day and of those 60,000 thoughts, 95% are the same ones we had yesterday?  And worse, 80% of those thoughts are negative!

You see we collect stories about ourselves each and every hour of the day, every day of the year. We build these perceptions to justify our actions or inactions. How often do you tell yourself, “I’ll do better when…”, or “I can’t do…”?  When this happens, our subconscious mind buys into our own negative story.

But here’s the good news… If we change our thoughts and the stories we tell ourselves, we can have it, build it and enjoy it, whatever “it” is.  Mantras and affirmations are very useful in helping us turn our perceptions around.  Personally, I have to watch what I say and think about money so I follow a mantra I borrowed from Sonia Ricotti, “Money flows easily, freely and from everywhere”. 

Byron Katie, the author of Loving What Is, also helps us turn all of our stories around. If you haven’t read her book and you are not happy with your current circumstances, I highly suggest you pick up a copy and read it. See the Awesome Resource section for links to the book on Amazon.

And in case you are wondering, Abby is getting used to the dark! So, I’m sleeping better. What about you, are you sleeping better too?

Taking the LEAP with you!

Oh, the Stories We Tell Ourselves!

Every day, Melanie, a solopreneur, begins her day by telling herself her favorite story: “My potential customers do not understand the value I offer despite my existing clients providing excellent testimonials. Yet I know my competitors are getting new business all the time, even in this tough economy. It’s not fair”.

Her competitor, Alissa, has her own favorite story: “My customers value my services, even though hundreds of competitors offer similar services, because I recognize I need to understand my clients’ needs and provide more and more value to set myself apart from my competition. I know I help my customers get through these tough times."

Melanie plays the part of the victim while Alissa plays the victor. 

Every day, we tell ourselves enough of these negative kinds of stories like Melanie's to fill a library:  Why doesn’t he like me?  Why did they laugh at my question? Why is everyone is being so difficult? How am I’m such a failure?

And on, and on, and on.

We live our lives as if the stories are true. We act and react, often in pain, from our often misunderstanding of someone’s words or actions, or our assumptions about why they are saying or doing what they are doing.  And then we wonder how we should be different based on those emotions and interpretations.  We are dis-empowering ourselves.

We are the ones creating the damage.

These stories, and the emotions that come from the stories, are usually the source of the pain and/or discomfort we feel in our relationships, or about ourselves. We want to blame the other person, but in reality, it’s usually our thinking actually causing the discomfort, says Byron Katie, author of the best-selling book Loving What Is.

To experience more freedom in our lives, we need to do to ease the pain of our stories by learning how to get beyond our stories, to get under our beliefs to what’s really living there.

“The result of investigation is often a deeper appreciation of the people in our lives and a realization that it was not their words or actions that really harmed us, but our uninvestigated thoughts about their words or actions,” Katie says.

In her book, Katie outlines “The Work”, a simple path of inquiry into these horror stories we tell ourselves that revolves around four questions.  Find out the four questions by clicking here.

Think of one story you’ve been telling yourself that isn’t true?

Who would you be without that story?

Can your reframe it or let it go altogether
to make your life better – or go after your dream?

Byron Katie

Byron Katie’s “The Work” as she describes it, is simply four questions when applied to a specific problem, enables you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light.

As Katie says, "It's not the problem that causes our suffering; it's our thinking about the problem." She goes on to explain that trying to let go of a painful thought never works. Instead, through undergoing “The Work”, the thought lets go of us. We can then truly love what is, just as it is. The book will guide you step-by-step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use her revolutionary process for yourself. It is available through Amazon and other sellers. Click here to find this and other awesome resources!

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Renée Blasky is the Founder and CEO of The LEAP Network Ltd.

She wasn’t always the risk-taking entrepreneur that she is today. Through several important life experiences, including being an "expat" for the vast majority of her life and sailing an ocean, she learned the importance and benefits of risk-taking and how to embrace risk rather than fear it! Renée also realized capturing life’s fulfillment meant giving back to others. So, she started her second business: The LEAP Network in order to share her experiences and expertise with entrepreneurs and potential entrepreneurs.  This includes "trailing spouses", stay-at-home parents or elderly caregivers who have sacrificed their careers due to circumstances beyond their control.  Renée coaches existing entrepreneurs on ways to monetize their passion, revitalize their businesses, and take action to grow their businesses.  She coaches those who have sacrificed their careers, either by choice or by uncontrolled circumstances, to eliminate frustration, boredom, and loneliness while becoming more fulfilled and happy!  By helping them start their own online businesses, they can get their identity back, boost their self-esteem, and once again be financially independent!

Learn more about Renée and The LEAP Network by visiting her website here: www.theleapnetwork.coachesconsole.com.

You can also send an email directly to Renée at rkblasky@theleapnetwork.co (not “.com”)

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