“The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something
is to go out and do it.”
― Susan Jeffers,

5 November 2020

Dear Renée,
Having worked with startup entrepreneurs for the last four years, and having been self-employed for over 20 years, one of the things I’ve noticed, is we often let fear get in the way of starting our businesses, and/or undertaking sales and marketing activities to grow our businesses. Consequently, our dreams never get off the ground, or they stagnate to never reach their full potential. This is tragic. 

Research has shown only 20% of any population is operating near full potential as a result of our own self-judgment.  Thoughts like, “I’m not good enough”, “What if I fail?” or “What will people think if I start out super small?”  Or, “What will my family and friends think of me when I succeed?”  These thoughts are all based on fear and can stop us dead in our tracks.

These fears are likely based on saboteurs or monsters we developed during our childhood years. The most frightening thing is, we don’t even know these fears and doubts exist in our subconscious mind; we only notice the outcomes of having them (and sometimes we don’t even notice!). That is why, when a business associate of mine (Thanks Barb F.), mentioned the book, Feel the Fear…And Do It Anyway, by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., I took the opportunity to become a certified trainer for her program after reading the book.  I knew this material would help my clients and others face their goblins to make them disappear! 

📣 I am happy to announce I will be having my first "Feel the Fear" webinar this month with another two to follow in December.  These are free, but will be restricted in size as they are interactive.  See the registration details below in the “Awesome Resources” section.  I hope to see you there – you might be surprised what you learn about yourself and how you can “free” yourself from fears and anxiety!

Taking the LEAP with you!

Don’t Let Fear Stop You

Fear talks to us, sometimes during the dead of the night.  We are awakened at 3 am thinking about “What ifs?” And when we listen to those fearful thoughts, we inhibit our true potential, joy and happiness. 

Do any of the following circumstances sound familiar to you?

◽️Sheila loved nothing more than to dance but she wouldn’t go out on the dance floor because she thought she’d look clumsy and ridiculous.

◽️Sanjay knew he deserved a raise, but he was so nervous about approaching his boss, he never asked for one.

◽️Noor’s fear of bears was so great she wouldn’t go on a camping trip with her friends. And their campsite wasn’t even in bear territory.

◽️And here is the one I most dislike:  Christina doesn’t take any action in getting her dream business started because she is so afraid of failing.  But yet she is miserable at her job; her talents and value are often overlooked with her very own potential loyal customers waiting for her to show up.

Fear is that nattering voice inside our heads that says, you can’t, you shouldn’t, what if…. Fear keeps us from taking risks that might enrich our life or it holds us back from doing some things we need to do. Experience new and exciting vistas? Accomplish something really great? Fear says, “Not on your life.”

This isn’t to say that fear is all bad. At its best it’s an instinctive built-in reaction to help us survive. Without fear we might attempt to stroll across freeways or scratch behind a lion’s ears. But given the upper hand, fear can dominate our lives and make even the innocuous—taking a walk or making a phone call—a daunting experience.

"Ninety-nine percent of what we worry about never happens", according to Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. “There’s a voice inside our heads that’s always heralding doom and disaster even before we get started on something,” she says.

On its own, fear and/or anxiety won’t just disappear. The following are some strategies to help you deal with fears that might be holding you back from something you want or need to do. (You’ll learn even more in the webinar.) 

• Get information. In an information void, fear clicks in to do what it thinks is its job – to keep you safe. But when you find out about what scares you, you replace fear with knowledge.
• Learn how to do it. If there’s something you’d like to do, but you’re afraid to try, take lessons. We’re not born knowing how to ride horses or make pottery. We are not even born knowing how to walk! 
• Find models. Let someone who’s not afraid model courage for you. Just as fearful behavior breeds the jitters, courageous behavior invites confidence.
• Talk about your fears. Keeping your fears bottled up inside magnifies them. Taking them out into the light can shrink them. Find a good listener who won’t pooh-pooh your fears or make judgments.
• Talk to yourself. Self-talk filled with positive messages can change fear energy into positive energy. Eliminate the “can’ts”, “shouldn’ts” and “ought-tos” from your self-talk vocabulary.
• Use your imagination. Before you arrive at the party, imagine the other guests are as frightened as you are. Or see your audience as people who really want the information you have. Visualize yourself doing what you are afraid to do; see yourself as graceful, strong and capable.
• Focus on the little things. Keep your mind on the details, not the Big Picture. Complete the report word by word, pay the bills one by one, see the group individual by individual.
• Expand your comfort zone. Getting out of your comfort zone take practice. Take a small risk each day. Make one phone call, ask for one thing you want, go to one new place. Little by little your confidence will expand, too.
• Relax and breathe. Sometimes the physical response to fear creates even more fear. Physically relax your body and breathe in and out to release tension.
• Ask for help. If your fears are pervasive or severe, you may be suffering from an anxiety disorder, in which case you should definitely seek help. If your fears are not debilitating, but still get in the way of doing what you need or want to do, asking for help can make all the difference.
  
  

Take a ten-minute break to sit somewhere quiet with your eyes closed...

▫️ Think about something you have always wanted to do but didn’t because you were afraid. 
▫️ Now think about what that fear has cost you. 
▫️ Next, imagine what your life would look like right now if you had successfully done it.

Would you feel more alive, or have learned a valuable lesson that would be useful in other areas in your life?

Upcoming Webinar!

“Feel the Fear…And Do It Anyway”

Come join me at this free 90-minute webinar to discover how to recognize and control your fears or anxiety so you don’t restrict your full potential, your enjoyment of life, and getting the life of your dreams! 

Three dates are available: 18th November at 6pm (US Central), 1st December at 11am (US Central) or 15th December at 8am (US Central).  Want to know more or to register?  Click here

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COMPLIMENTARY REINVENT STRATEGY SESSION

Join me in a one-hour complimentary strategy session to help determine how you can move forward in getting unstuck, and gain momentum to move in the right direction for you.

During our session, we will go over one or two exercises and determine the one next step you can take on your own after the call to keep the momentum going. Click here to schedule your session

Renée Blasky is the Founder and CEO of The LEAP Network Ltd.

After realizing her career in the financial industry was no longer exciting, Renée started her journey as a Start-up Business Coach by completing the Tony Robbins and Cloe Maddanes Core 100 Strategic Intervention program and she has never looked back!

Through her Get Results Without the Overwhelm Program, she loves working with new solo entrepreneurs to help them become the CEO of their companies. Using her unique process she helps them strategize, set stick-worthy goals, and implement an action plan. The program includes valuable resources to help them stay focused, create the right mindset, and stay accountable.  She also gently pushes her clients outside of their comfort zones and helps them face their fears so they can achieve their dreams. Renée works with her clients through various online courses, webinars, one-on-one coaching, and group coaching programs.

In addition to her own Get Results Without the Overwhelm Program, Renée is a certified trainer for Marci Shimoff's Happy for No Reason and Susan Jeffer's Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway courses based on their respective books of the same name. 

Renée, who obtained her CFA Charter in 1990, has over 30 years of experience in the finance industry and first entered into the world of entrepreneurship in 1997 after discovering several ethical lapses at her places of employment.  She decided it was best to start her own business so she could dictate the values and beliefs from which to run her business.  Renée's coaching clients are based all over the world, and range from various types of coaches, import/exporters, to direct line marketers. 

Learn more about Renée and The LEAP Network by visiting her website here: www.theleapnetwork.coachesconsole.com.

You can also send an email directly to Renée at rkblasky@theleapnetwork.co (not “.com”)

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