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“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it
the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” - Napoleon Hill
8 October 2020
 Dear Renée,
I used to be petrified of failing. I always wanted to win, be the best, score the goals and be recognized as being successful. As a result, I would only do something if I knew I would be good at it. Thankfully, I was good at a lot of things, so my world did not seem lacking. Maybe that’s why it took me well into my adult years when I started my own businesses that I really got taught lessons in failure.
While developing by coaching business in the first two years I faced numerous frustrations, none starts, and limiting beliefs obstructing my path. My idea of what success should look like and what it means was completely causing me to stay stuck. I’m so grateful two of my coaches were able to lead me through this transformational period of personal growth. Having had to start, restart, and give up on an idea all together has taught me that failure and making mistakes just means:
F. A. I. L. = First Attempt In Learning
I’ve learned over the years that failure is a gift and an opportunity. It gives us a second chance to do it over again – but the second time can be better. Each time we get to do it over again, it becomes better and better and better. So it helps us grow and improve - what better gift can an entrepreneur receive?
 There’s a saying in the cruising world that you can’t consider yourself a true sailor until you’ve run aground on each continent. It proves you grabbed life and went for the adventure – with no embarrassment attached to the events. As a former sailor, I would like to state, “May we all fail with grace and gratitude while we are going for it, and living life to the fullest”.
Taking the LEAP with you!
Quiz...
How Well Do You Handle Failure?
 Because we are human, we cannot help but fail. We make mistakes at work or in developing our businesses. We lose relationships. We parent in ways we later regret. We fail to win or succeed at all we do. How we handle these failures makes all the difference in the world in how we utilize our ability to learn and be effective in our work and personal lives.
Take the Self-Quiz below to see how you tend to handle failure.
Mark each statement as True, or False
Set 1
1. I make realistic (safe) choices about what to do. If I’m unsure whether I can succeed at something, I don’t do it.
2. I feel so ashamed after losing a job that I can’t bear to see colleagues from that workplace again.
3. If I fail at something, I give up and take it as evidence that I’m not “meant” to do that. I don’t see the point in trying again; it’s a waste of energy. I’m better off doing something else.
4. I gave up thinking about what I want long ago, because I know I’m never going to get it.
5. I’m better off by myself; experience proves that I’m a failure at relationships. Why bother going out to meet new people.
6. I act as though failure means nothing to me. I don’t want people to see my pain and humiliation. It’s too embarrassing
7. Failure does nothing but point out my deficiencies and flaws. I do everything I can to avoid it.
Set 2
1. I work hard on self-forgiveness after failing at something. I replace “if only…” with “next time…” so that I keep focused on the future.
2. I know what I want, and no failure will stop me from getting there.
3. I expect to make mistakes. I incorporate the possibility for failure into everything I do so that I’m not devastated when it happens.
4. I may feel inferior and humbled when I fail, but I use that to point the way to where I need to change or grow.
5. I try to see the humor in a situation. It helps me accept failure with more grace and self-acceptance.
6. If I’ve made a mistake, I take responsibility for it and work to fix it. Guilt doesn’t become part of the equation.
7. Rather than beat myself up for failing, I get curious. I reflect on the experience and ask myself questions such as: What have I learned and gained? How can this failure serve me? What am I really trying to accomplish? How can I do it better next time?
If you answered true to more questions in Set 1 than in Set 2, you may be missing excellent opportunities to learn from your mistakes, improve your feelings about yourself and live more courageously.
These lessons allow us to retain hope and the instinct for joy and make us better prepared for life’s journey. Please contact me if you’d like to explore your response to failure.
Challenge Question...
Identify a time when you failed or were deeply disappointed in a result.
- What did you learn from that situation?
- Was it a gift or opportunity?
- Would you be where you are today without that lesson?
We All Fail before We Succeed
 Meet Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love. Gilbert reflects on why success can be as disorienting as failure and offers a simple -- though hard -- way to carry on, regardless of outcomes. Find out how, when living in your rightful "home", you can resiliently handle failure because there is no other option. Click here to watch.
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Renée Blasky is the Founder and CEO of The LEAP Network Ltd.
After realizing her career in the financial industry was no longer exciting, Renée started her journey as a Start-up Business Coach by completing the Tony Robbins and Cloe Maddanes Core 100 Strategic Intervention program and she has never looked back!
Through her Get Results Without the Overwhelm Program, she loves working with new solo entrepreneurs to help them become the CEO of their companies. Using her unique process she helps them strategize, set stick-worthy goals, and implement an action plan. The program includes valuable resources to help them stay focused, create the right mindset, and stay accountable. She also gently pushes her clients outside of their comfort zones and helps them face their fears so they can achieve their dreams. Renée works with her clients through various online courses, webinars, one-on-one coaching, and group coaching programs.
In addition to her own Get Results Without the Overwhelm Program, Renée is a certified trainer for Marci Shimoff's Happy for No Reason and Susan Jeffer's Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway courses based on their respective books of the same name.
Renée, who obtained her CFA Charter in 1990, has over 30 years of experience in the finance industry and first entered into the world of entrepreneurship in 1997 after discovering several ethical lapses at her places of employment. She decided it was best to start her own business so she could dictate the values and beliefs from which to run her business. Renée's coaching clients are based all over the world, and range from various types of coaches, import/exporters, to direct line marketers.
Learn more about Renée and The LEAP Network by visiting her website here: www.theleapnetwork.coachesconsole.com.
You can also send an email directly to Renée at rkblasky@theleapnetwork.co (not “.com”)
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