“One common thing about great achievers
is that they keep asking useful questions every day.
They ask questions like;
“What do I want and what do I need to do to get it?”
~ Israelmore Ayivor

21 May 2020

Dear Renée,

Have you ever asked a question and were deluged with responses that went well beyond what you wanted, but not in a good way? 

I was in a group discussion the other day when someone said, “I hesitate to ask for input because when I’ve asked in the past, the responses annoyed me.”  Several of us responded, “Just how did you ask the question?”

This scenario caused us to talk about how we are often very ineffective in asking for what we really want. This can be particularly true when someone close to us is involved. We assume, they will understand what it is we want because they love us or know us well. Sometimes this assumption even causes us to not even ask for what we want because we expect our loved one to read our minds or to understand what we need!  Sound familiar?  How many of you have fought with your spouse for this very reason? Feelings of anger, disrespect, being misunderstood, resentment, and inadequacy can rise up.

All of these negative emotions can be eliminated when we learn to ask for what it is we want in an effective manner.  This applies to both our personal and business desires.  Below are some tips to help improve our communication styles. 

Taking the LEAP with you!

Empower Yourself:
Ask for What You Want!

Asking for what we want is a powerful, and empowering act that can send strong ripples through our lives. However, most of us struggle to do this for various reasons. 

To make it easier, look at the following four things needed to be in place first before you make the ask:

1. You know what you want.

2. You fully believe you deserve it.

3. You are prepared to accept the answer “No.”

4. You have the communication skills needed for an effective request.

What Do You Want?

Our “wants” emerge from the needs we are experiencing, for example, the need to be heard, the need for respect, the need for boundaries, expedience, beauty, and/or intimacy. Knowing our needs helps us be clear about what we are requesting. According to renowned relationship expert Chloe Madenes, there are six basic human needs we strive to meet: 1) certainty; 2) variety; 3) significance; 4) love and connection; 5) contribution; and 6) growth.  She adds, each person has 2 – 3 that are more important than the others and drive our actions and emotions. 

Keep reading to learn more about how to ask for what you want!

Can you effectively communicate and obtain
one desire today using the tools above?

Want to know which two of the six basic human needs mentioned above are most important to you? 

Take The Six Basic Human Needs Survey and I’ll send you your results, along with a bit of explanation on what it means. The survey should take no longer than 15 minutes - some can even finish in 10 minutes!  

With this, you may understand your desires better and figure out how to communicate them more effectively. Click here to take my survey. 

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Renée Blasky is the Founder and CEO of The LEAP Network Ltd.

She wasn’t always the risk-taking entrepreneur that she is today. Through several important life experiences, including being an "expat" for the vast majority of her life and sailing an ocean, she learned the importance and benefits of risk-taking and how to embrace risk rather than fear it! Renée also realized capturing life’s fulfillment meant giving back to others. So, she started her second business: The LEAP Network in order to share her experiences and expertise with entrepreneurs and potential entrepreneurs.  This includes "trailing spouses", stay-at-home parents or elderly caregivers who have sacrificed their careers due to circumstances beyond their control.  Renée coaches existing entrepreneurs on ways to monetize their passion, revitalize their businesses, and take action to grow their businesses.  She coaches those who have sacrificed their careers, either by choice or by uncontrolled circumstances, to eliminate frustration, boredom, and loneliness while becoming more fulfilled and happy!  By helping them start their own online businesses, they can get their identity back, boost their self-esteem, and once again be financially independent!

Learn more about Renée and The LEAP Network by visiting her website here: www.theleapnetwork.coachesconsole.com.

You can also send an email directly to Renée at rkblasky@theleapnetwork.co (not “.com”)

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